Exactly one week before our “bigger” marriage celebration my father legally married us in our home here in Chicago. That was exactly one year ago today. 2/27/2011. No one else was present, just the three of us. We sat on the couch in our living room, said simple vows he’d written for us, and he prayed over our marriage and our life together.
With great joy, through the love of Christ and the power of the Holy Spirit, I, Emilia, take you Wilfried, to be my husband. I commit to building an everlasting, covenant relationship with you. I promise to fully commit myself to your spiritual wellbeing, and to submit to you daily. I promise to labor faithfully with you to fulfill the great commission. Where you go I will go, and where you stay I will stay.
And he said the same to me ;-) We are both constantly submitting to EACH OTHER as Ephesians 5:21 says.
More details for those that are curious about how and why we did this: Initially we decided to get married this way because our wedding was in Texas the week later and they have funny rules about how long you have to be there with marriage license in hand before you can sign it. We would be in Mexico on our honeymoon before we could legally be married because of how we’d set up our travel plans. As this wouldn’t really work, we decided we liked the simpler idea of just getting legally married at home before heading down to Texas so it would be one less detail to worry about on our big day. People ask me if this made our “wedding” less special. For us it didn’t. We set up the wedding we wanted from the get go though and it wasn’t for anyone else. We paid for our wedding. And we only had 15 people there (total including “vendors”) anyway. As to whether or not I would recommend other couples do this? That would completely have to be on a couple by couple basis completely dependent upon your reasoning behind it and other wedding details. If not handled properly you can really easily piss off a lot of people doing this. But if it’s what you want, GO FOR IT :-)
So, to my love, my darling husband. I commit to you forever. And I’m so thrilled to be entering into our second year of marriage! Eek. XXXXOOOOO (And please for the love of goodness gracious hurry home safely from California. I miss you already)